I don’t have time to blather on about it, but isn’t that really the backbone of this whole narrative? Who’s in charge of women and their hyper-charged sexuality? Is it the Byron Montgomerys of the world with their True Love Waits projects? The Ians and Jasons with their exploitation? Society wants to control female sexuality, and when they can’t cage it, or convince women that the sole purpose of it is to satisfy the male gaze, or manipulate women into feeling less than because they can’t attain the “perfection” of a magazine cover image, or press upon women that age-old church idea that their bodies belong to their fathers and then to their husbands, they’ll try to squash it right out of them. It’s easy money, it’s easy politics, and it’s gross, gross, gross. Just think for one second what would happen if every lady you know stood up and said, “This is the new deal: I’m in charge of what happens to me.
Heather Hogan, AfterEllen.com Senior Editor and perfect human being